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Dec 05, 2013, 05:58 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2013
Location: Newbury Park
Posts: 10
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Things are tough and yes it is hard. I am not going to lie to you and make it seem things will be better with time. One thing first though, is you are allowing this to “eat” at you. Your sadness and loneliness will only worsen especially with the poor thoughts which will lead to depression. Please stop that. Yes it’s easier said than done but stop those thoughts.
Who cares about popularity? I know it’s easy to envy those who have lots of friends since they are running around laughing and smiling. It’s not about the number of friends you have but who are actually your friends. I rather have a few best friends than dozens of friends any day.
You need to stop thinking about your whole life of not having friends. No one is able to predict the future and most definitely worrying about the future isn’t going to help you. Planning for the future is good such as school, career, family, etc…but worrying about it without action is not helping you.
You can’t change your past either. What happened has happened. It’s so hard to forget it but you can’t change it. Learn from it and realize that you know what you want and that right now is finding some friends.
Are your days that busy that you can’t find a few hours a week to do something new? I’m not going to lie to you, but I used to work 30-40 hours a week, went to school full time, and still managed to find time for myself. Now it wasn’t a lot and it was most definitely hard but you have to manage your time well. There should be clubs and organizations at your school right? Any sports you like? Videogames? You play the piano, no bands or music clubs on campus?
I’m not trying to be rude or mean, but definitely who cares about people saying crap about you. If they are talking crap or laughing at you, why would they be worth your time? And I don’t believe every single person at your school, community, even city are all mean to you. Know that some people, especially at your age, are ignorant and just flat-out rude. You need to find the right friends and you can by joining clubs/groups with similar interest.
If you need someone to chat, just let me know. I’m willing to listen. 
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