I'm not sure where to turn so I hope I will get some good feedback on this forum. This is a bit of a long story so please stay with me. My wife and I are both 48 years old; we have been married for 17 years. About 6 years ago my wife collapsed at dinner time, just fell to the floor and was completely unresponsive. I called an ambulance and we went to the hospital where she was admitted. She awoke but could not speak and didn't recognize anyone or the names of most things. She also had trouble walking. They did just about every test imaginable, MRI, PET scan and CAT scan just to name the major ones. She was placed in the cardiac ward since at first they thought she had a heart attack. Things came back slowly; she called me "husband" for the first 3 days before she finally remembered my name. After 9 days in the hospital she was released and we followed up with an epilepsy specialist which after additional tests epilepsy was ruled out. They then tested her for sleep disorders but they ruled that out as well. In the end they diagnosed her with conversion disorder. She saw someone who works with conversion disorder patients (therapist?) for a while to try to get to the bottom of it but she never really did. She also saw another therapist and for some reason was calling a nun in the country of Jamaica that a friend recommended she speak with. Fast forward, she has not had any additional episodes like the big one several years back but she has exhibited other behavior such as taking a fact and spinning it into a much larger tale. For example she saw a news story of a drug dealer being arrested in the town next to ours and she started telling everyone and continues to tell everyone that there is a major heroin problem at the local high school. She believes this completely as fact. She repeats this many many times to many people. She will get obsessed with a topic. For example she is very afraid of getting a tick bite. She won't let my children sit on the grass in the back yard and she insisted to a neighbor that she had a tick on her neck and had her try to remove it. When I got home from work she was very upset and showed it to me but it was a small mole on her neck that she has had ever since I know her. She will get fixated on other topics, exaggerating and repeating them as well. Off and on in spurts over the past 3 or 4 years she will wake me in the middle of the night usually between 3AM and 4 AM. When she wakes me she is outraged and angry. She has also hit me while I am sleeping. She tells me that I am talking in my sleep admitting to infidelity with a woman I used to work with. Last night she told me that I said in my sleep that I raped this other woman. She has also told me that I have also said in my sleep other things such as:
"she broke my heart" “I hate her short hair” "I want to **** 'person’s name here' " and more. Of course I have never done any of these things. I told my wife to record me talking in my sleep. She did and played it back for me and all I could hear was me snoring or muttering. She would insist "can't you hear it, right there, you said x y z. I could only hear what to me are normal sleep noises, snoring and so on. I've responded by reassuring her that I have not nor would I ever do something like that, holding her, losing it, (hey it's the middle of the night) and of course fighting with her about this. Typically she ends up apologizing profusely a few days later (this can happen on several nights in a row but probably only about 50% of the time) at which point she is very happy as if nothing happened and she gets upset with me if I don't act the same but it's difficult for me to just be happy like turning on a switch after a few sleepless nights where she has accused me of doing terrible things. She completely believes that I have done all of these things and nothing I can do can convince her. This happened again last night, I'm not sure what I can do to help her and resolve this once and for all. She has been doing this on and off for probably about 3 to 4 years. I'm not sure if any of these behaviors are interrelated but I wanted to provide as much background information as possible. I wouldn't mind talking to a professional as well, but I am not sure what type of professional to speak to or how to find someone. Any advice anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you,

Sleepless in NY