And as for his issues re emotional connections etc ... not glaringly, but there does seem to be some kind of emotional cut-off. Mostly, actually, when I'm hurt by him. Right when it's most crucial that he apply compassion and tenderness and restorative care. Instead his neglect makes the whole last so much longer, even as I'm calmly explaining my hurt and how I need help to heal and want to be restored to closeness, then he complains that I'm dragging it all out!

How do you cope, emotionally, day by day, with your fiance being "emotionally stunted"? Do you then feel alone/neglected/alienated sometimes in what is meant to be a close, mutually supporting relationship?