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Originally Posted by Capriciousness
... But now I am just feeling like I have gone to embarrassing lengths to give her opportunities to prove my broken heart wrong and she is just not going to do it. I do have self respect and I feel pushed past my limit. Telling her now to come will cause a bigger rift for sure but I am having a hard time caring right now. I need to take care of myself.
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Absolutely DO take care of yourself!
You know, frankly, a bigger rift is exactly what is
needed. It is the
only possible way she could even
begin to "get it"--that one can't go around treating people like that. To do otherwise would only encourage her self-centered ways.
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Originally Posted by Capriciousness
... she is def making this all about her and every time we talk it is a about her. All of a sudden every feeling I am having is all about her. She is also and incredibly defensive person which makes any conversation about how an action of here hurt me just tortuous.
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Originally Posted by Capriciousness
...Which is what I have been trying to suss out for awhile and she is always defensive and annoyed that I don't understand how stressful her job is. Well now.
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It is sooo tempting here for me to say that the "no hope" is for
her.
Lol. I love irony.
You know what, though? None of the people I've personally dealt with that act in these ways has ever changed. I
do believe it is
possible, but it'd require a complete paradigm shift and a LOT of sustained hard work. They'd have to
really really want it. Personally, themselves, and not for the sake of another. But how many people who think the world revolves around them earnestly want to work on taking themselves out of the spotlight? Yeah.
They
like it there.
And it's certainly a lot easier than the alternatives.