Sorry, Thorn Bird, I had PDNOS, not full-fledged NPD myself, but I support these guys trying to deal with their stuff and their lives.
It doesn't sound to me like you are as lacking in knowledge as you expressed above, based on the post you made in this thread yesterday:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/partn...-disorder.html
Reading your post there, after reading your post here, resulted in me feeling rage. If you'd like more information about what I felt, and why, reply here and I'll elaborate.