My time with my T is coming to an end in a few months, so I've been getting into the difficult territory of my transference with her to get everything out. I've only ever given her generalized statements of my feelings. Last session felt extremely uncomfortable because it seems so weird to talk openly about my feelings for her when I've always kept them private. I got worried that she would think I'm needlessly indulging in them. Maybe I don't have a reason to actually tell her just how bad my transference is, and she'll think why in the world are you telling me this? My T has said before that it's okay for me to keep secrets from her if I want to, so I'm afraid she thinks that I shouldn't tell her everything.

I found this quote in an article from Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...he-same-skills) that I am worried applies in my situation: "The therapist anticipates the termination phase of therapy by continually encouraging the independent development of healthy autonomy in clients. Excessive dependency or attempts by clients to seek gratification from the therapist are discouraged."

I don't understand what the article meant by clients seeking gratification, and it doesn't further discuss this. In this context, what do you think that means? Where is the line between talking about transference and seeking gratification? I want to make sure this isn't what I'm doing...

Also, is simply wanting to talk about transference enough of a reason to do so? What if you already know why you have these feelings?