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Originally Posted by purplemystery
Maybe I don't have a reason to actually tell her just how bad my transference is, and she'll think why in the world are you telling me this?
I found this quote in an article from Psychology Today ( http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...he-same-skills) that I am worried applies in my situation: " The therapist anticipates the termination phase of therapy by continually encouraging the independent development of healthy autonomy in clients. Excessive dependency or attempts by clients to seek gratification from the therapist are discouraged."
I don't understand what the article meant by clients seeking gratification, and it doesn't further discuss this. In this context, what do you think that means? Where is the line between talking about transference and seeking gratification? I want to make sure this isn't what I'm doing...
Also, is simply wanting to talk about transference enough of a reason to do so? What if you already know why you have these feelings? |
Why are you leaving T? I think the termination phase ideals written here are in the context of patients ending therapy for good, rather than leaving due to Ts retiring, moving, or other reasons.
Gratification given by a T with whom you've developed an intimate relationship might make it more difficult to separate. It's probably not a good idea for a T to be inconsistent with the boundaries either. That could be confusing.
...worried that she would think I'm needlessly indulging in them.
...she'll think
why in the world are you telling me this?
...My T has said before that it's okay for me to keep secrets from her if I want to, so I'm afraid she thinks that I shouldn't tell her everything.
...she'll think
why in the world are you telling me this?
...I am worried applies in my situation:
This definitely sounds like anxiety! The anticipation, going through all the possibilities, another person's potential thoughts running through your mind, indecisive. Sorry you are feeling so anxious.
Why do you think you are wanting to talk about the transference now? Maybe to help with closure?