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Originally Posted by cubabe29
Yes I agree with you a 100%  . My mom sees herself as "perfect" in her false image of herself so she does no wrong in her mind. The worst part is she can't empathize and put herself in other people's shoes, that to me is the worst part. Quick example, I'm 30 and in July I had surgery for a torn labrum on my right arm, my dominant arm  , from an old injury. I still am having issues with my arm like my hand turns blue/cold pretty frequently so I more than likely will have a 2nd surgery soon. When I would talk to my mom about not sleeping for 4 nights bc of pain/no circulation, she'll start talking about her arthritis pain in her knee, she's 63 years old (I would expect frequent aches&pains when I'm that old). And I would try to make the argument that I'm only 30 and dealing with this, it's only going to get worse as I get older. She always turns any situation around to be all about her.
I find it funny know but I wish she was like most of us that say something in the moment and regret it later by apologizing to that person. My mom has never done that.
Thank you for responding. I don't feel as angry as I did earlier so thanks for helping me .
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Definitely sounds like a pride thing. That's another issue. Sometimes people know they did/do wrong but just have too much pride to apologize. Could be part of her issue. I have known people like her. I suffer from too much pride like most of us, but I'm a softy when it boils down to it and I pretty much always apologize when I've hurt someone because I hate hurting people.
It could be pride, or it could just be that she really doesn't realize what she does. She may even think that she had a reason to do it, even if she didn't. I do hope it gets better for you, and I understand the pain thing. I have a tough job and get a lot of pain myself, and I just turned 23! I have a wrist that needs surgery (never got it done) and back pains and general body aches frequently. So I will be right with you when I get older too. Probably move like a 60 year old when I'm 30.