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Originally Posted by nepiadeluxe
I totally understand - and it's why I haven't told her about my inner demons - not at all. They're mine and mine to bear alone. It's why I came here seeking advice.
I'm really sorry it has come across as diminishing her problem - I didn't mean that at all. I meant that these are things I'm dealing with in my own head while at the same time trying to help her with her problems. As far as she knows, I'm totally okay with helping and that's all.
I just really need a release for these inner feelings as I haven't found anyone to talk about them with. That's the reason I sound so self absorbed - I'm coming here to try and get as much help for them as I am for my gf.
And I'm not so much jealous of HER sexual experiences as I am jealous of her EX's experiences with her.
I truly am sorry for feeling this way- but these things are the way I feel and I really cannot help it no matter how much I try to. I really don't want to feel this way, but I do and I just cannot stop myself from thinking negative thoughts.
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3 words: See a therapist.
I don't mean to sound mean, and sometimes I do because I'm blunt. But seriously, get yourself some help because whether or not you voice these inner demons, they spill over into your relationship anyway, and then you really sit in the dark regarding how to help because u can't pinpoint why you and gf are not making progress...
Your jealousy is irrational, even when directed at him. There's no reason to be jealous of a fktard who pressured someone to have sex and then fkd off.... More reason why you should go see that campus therapist yourself.