I have been in a relationship therapy group for about a year and a half. The last few weeks I have had conflict with the group and one person in particular. She has been attending this group for 8 plus years. For most of the time I have been with the group there has been no real change or improvement. She comes to group and talks about one of 2 or 3 revolving issues for 30 minutes out of 1.5 hours. Somebody will suggest something. She'll seem to go away with a goal or solution and then come back a few weeks later with the same problem. Said solution was never tried. Sometimes she deflects the convo into something else. The T seems like a sucker and feeds into her game. At some point I figured out it wasn't about the problem at all but a need to be heard. The T doesn't seem to see this.

I am wondering if anyone else has had somebody in a group with that much time? It seems to me that after that length of time spent together week after week habits form. In this case it is the fact that she dominates the time with the same issues week after week. It feels unhealthy and possibly unethical to me but I can't fully articulate why. I started to speak up a couple of months ago about her patterns and I think that is why I am getting backlash. Conflict I can understand but the T seems to dole it out too. Last week I walked out and next week I meet with him and my regular T. I am thinking I won't go back. Is it possible the T is too vested and doesn't even know it?

If she wants to pay for therapy that has no ROI and he wants to give it that is between them. The basis of this question is how it might affect group dynamics and my ability to get what I need.