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Originally Posted by growlithing
I really believe that people with severe NPD do not experience love or guilt or have the ability to see their actions causing others pain the way we do. They can see that maybe what they did was perhaps not the best, but whatever the good outweighs the bad and everything was done with good intentions and therefore it should have no impact on us.
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This is true of my mother. She has trouble understanding that the way she treats her children affects them. She has read parenting books, and she is a teacher at elementary school, but she doesn't know how to treat her own daughter (me). Many times I have left the room and she would complain to my father about something I just said or did.
My father would explain to her "she acts that way because you taught her that. You are always telling her this and that. She learned that from you."
"She did??"
"Yes...."
"Oh!!!"
Cause and effect does not compute in her mind. I'm wondering if she thinks so little of herself that she thinks her actions don't matter to anyone. That's the only explanation I can think of.