Hi,
just like the title says. I've been with my bf for 3 years. We've had a rollercoster ride through a lot of things. We've got thru most of it because we want to be together. The problem here is not that we don't love each other anymore, we do, and we still wanna be together.
But our sex life has just gone on strike or something.

Over the years i've been quite insecure with my physical appearance and all esp my height(he thinks i'm too short for him), i'm not his type, i'm flat chested, small butt and i'm short. And he doesn't like kissing me.
(we just don't match in this area) But i've overcome this issue and dealt with it better for a long time now.

Anyhow, for the passed year (his words) he has expressed that he like me less, he has lost interest in me and our sex life. But he wants to work it out, just dont know how.
Our sex life is the main issue that I want suggestions from you guys, he was my first - and at the beginning we were head over heels and always in the bedroom, it was really good for the first 2 years or maybe a year and a half. But then real life just barge in and things just lessen and changed. (esp in the bedroom)

But he's still very affectionate like before, with the cuddles and holding hands and all. Just the sex life that has kinda vanished. Its like sex is never on his mind anymore, which i know its not true, cos he's a very sexual guy. I know he's still able to think about other girls(porn stars or models) in that way.
But he just doesn't think about sex with me in it.

And now i'm starting to get really insecure again because I want to have sex and he doesn't even express that he wants to, or ever gets horny with me.
We showered together and its just like my body is unattractive and it doesn't turn him on at all.
I consider getting my breast done(no budget tho). I wanted to do it for myself too.
And I think he's the kind of person who won't notice a change or get excited if he doesn't see the a change that is concrete, like if its just a hair color change he would like say oh.. ok pretty.. and then no reaction after that.

I don't know what to do.
I'm losing hope a little.
How do I make him want me again?( and pls don't say, 'give each other space for a while maybe he'll miss me' - we did that, didn't work. We misses each other but it doesn't create sexual attraction between him and i.)

Help pls