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Originally Posted by Shayatanica
I've been with my boyfriend for three years now. A major role in the success has been my own brutal honesty & his ability to take it. I told him from the beginning about my disorder, because I was looking for someone I could "lower the mask" around.
Of course there are self-serving benefits. Financial support, admiration, sex, etc. And those are paramount in making sure I keep up my end of the bargain, when it comes to supporting him emotionally to the most I can offer... But he knows that I do not offer him everything he needs & he accepts that. And, honestly, it's healthy in all relationships [PD or not] to not be sickeningly dependent on your partner anyway.
But I have seriously transgressed when I've gotten bored & wanted a rush. He was willing to work through it because I was honest with him about it. It's not like lying would have accomplished anything of great value. And I'm willing to work through it because I still appreciate his value to me.
For the time being? I'd just take things one day at a time. If she proves herself to be someone you are compatible with & someone trustworthy, you can let her in & see how that works. If not -- move the **** on to greener pastures.
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Thanks, this post is great to read. I also believe that for the most part, my girlfriend and I have kept going so long because I feel comfortable being myself around her (for the most part, I haven't told her about my condition but she's commented about the way I act sometimes). It sounds to me like you have a similar problem as me with getting bored in the relationship. Have you gotten better with your impulses?