|
Dec 07, 2013, 09:18 PM
|
|
|
|
Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by Asiablue
I fear that if i was to take up her offer i would become dependant, my attachment style is anxious/preoccupied, i'm not sure i'd ever achieve a secure attachment to her, it would take a long and very bumpy ride to get that secure attachment and who knows if she's "man enough" to stay the course  or if she'll just dump me like the other therapist did. |
I completely relate to this. Sometimes I've talked to my T about my fear that he'll reject me like the last one did. Actually, we haven't talked about it. I've just mentioned it as part of another discussion. He says he won't. I've quizzed him hard about what he'd do if he felt like rejecting me - and he had very good answers that were reassuring. I'm still afraid he'll dump me, and he's given no evidence that he would do so - which isn't the same thing as him not doing things that make me afraid he might. Have you talked to her about this? (yikes. I just realized I haven't talked about this. I've mentioned it, but not really talked about it. Note to self: talk to T about this)
|