okay so that was my reaction... and now here is my response.

what sorts of things are you giving them? more in particular, about how long is it and do you give it to them before during or after a session? do you give them stuff that you want to work on in sessions? i mean... are you telling them stuff that is important to you that you would like to be able to talk to them about? is that the idea?

sometimes therapists don't like to read stuff that you give them in sessions. that might be because they are a slow reader (or something) and they feel uncomfortable reading when you are sitting there waiting for them to finish. if that is the situation then i guess they could read it out of session time. but there the problem can be around how much time it takes for them to read it. if it is five minutes or the occasional ten minutes then you would think they could be accomodating... if it takes them an hour or something like that then i guess they might not have the time to do that. i guess some arrangement could be made so they bill you for another session... all that is by way of trying to understand where the therapist is coming from.

if you are giving them stuff that you want to be able to talk to them about then... well... what happens after they have read it? do they ask you questions about it and stuff? how does that go?

i'm wondering whether it might be that they read it and then try and talk to you about it and then they try and talk to you about it and they don't think that you do want to talk to them about it. that could be for a couple of reasons. one might be that they aren't responding to your risk (by giving them stuff that is hard) in a way that facilitates your doing that. i.e. your therapist not appreciating just how big a risk it is to disclose stuff AT ALL doesn't really matter what the medium is. sometimes that can lead to stalemate where the t starts to wonder why you give them stuff when you don't appear willing to talk about it. sometimes t needs to look at their role...

but that being said i think it is good that you are trying to look at your role too... but... it is important not to get self-depreciatory etc etc.

can you tell us some more?