This is not a healthy T/client relationship, your T is doing so many things that are unethical and she could be reported. She's really not helping you, cause it feels good now, but it can go sour fast. If you want my opinion: Run.

Oh I see. I mean as long as your T is licensed and was recommended by a good doctor, then I guess she knows what she's doing. Or sometimes it's a cultural thing, people being closer together, even in professional relationships, depending on the therapist and client.

But still it does bother me to hear that you guys go shopping or your T playing with your hair....I mean going out to eat once or twice may be fine in certain kinds of therapy but this other stuff just seems little too close and as you admit yourself, it can be both healing and also kind of scary. Why don't you talk about it with your therapist or your doctor or whoever else who is close to you and cares about you. Sometimes about it just doesn't seem quite right to me.