I don't believe in absolutes, or that all people are the same. It might be possible for a heart to mend, but it might equally well be impossible. It's got nothing to do with personal choice, but to some extent it's to do with acceptance of the fact that some wishes will always lead to disappointment. Many people lead rich, wondrful lives without intimacy in love or friendship - which is inconceivable for many other people. Everybody is different.

We have to find out what works for us, and what is important for each of us to strive for. And accept that some things are not possible.