Annie, it does take a while to first find the stuff that needs to be worked through but that is part of the process of working through it. It takes a long time and it's frustrating. The thing that I am always told is to stay in the present. Make yourself stay where you are. Notice your child and make yourself play with her. Notice that you are safe. Notice your hands, they are grown up hands. Look in the mirror and see a grown up lady. These are the things I keep hearing. It helps. Sometimes just putting it on paper and saving it for the next therapy session is good because you can give it to the paper to hold so you won't have to. I hope this makes sense. Good luck and know my heart is with you. Take time to be with you, take a bath, read a book etc.