Honestly I agree with you if it were individual therapy and I appreciate your POV. I have given her feedback but it is really them that are trying to change me in a way I am not comfortable with. Plus if someone is flat out saying they think you are whatever it is they don't like without any real examples i can't really give them much weight.
My concern with regard to her 8 years is related to group dynamics rather than her health. Because she has been there the longest I think she dictates the energy of the group more than she should. We meet once a week. I think that people get used to people when they spend a few years together whether it be work or marriage or therapy. After a time you get used to people's bad habits so much you don't even see them anymore. IOW I think T is biased.
The group members changed in the past year. 2 left and 4 joined. I was thrilled because I can relate so much better with these people and I wanted the fresh perspective but over time they seem to shut down too. One said she it was the dynamic of the group (surprise!). One has already left and I think one will put in her 6 months and leave too. I really connected with the one that left and I miss her a lot. I had told my private T several months ago that her being there was the only draw for me. I think that is even more true now and she only left two weeks ago.
Thank you for your feedback.
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Originally Posted by anilam
I think that judging just from a length of time says nothing whether the person benefited from the therapy or not.
She has 30min every few weeks- sounds about right? No matter the topic the members should have more or less same length of time appointed to them.
I don't think there's nothing wrong with just wanting to be heard. Maybe she's not ready to change that behavior/problem/whatever and just needs to share it?
It's not your place to try and change her.
That being said, if you think that this doesn't work for you than I'd stop going. No reason to waste your time in there.
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