Very, very interesting. i saw this thread about an hour ago, and an hour ago began reading it, along with the replies. i found myself shaking my head in places, ABSOULTELY DISGUSTED to read such nastiness and harsh behaviour from members that ALL have status on PC, ie Veteran Member, Poohbah etc. thus raises the question "why do you all think it is only you members who have been here a while that cause all this unnecessary hate". answer: because you are all abusing your right and respect of this site. i dont see any new members being so hateful and harsh. im ashamed, to be honest, ashamed that i am a member on a site full of people who use their status for the wrong reasons.

i too grew up in a harsh and hateful world along with each and every one of you. ive seen things i shouldnt have seen, heard things i shouldnt have. do you see me going around being so harsh to others? no! why? because i RESPECT people. i treat others how i want to be treated. nothing more, nothing less. if i have an issue with someone, i either keep my mouth shut as i know if i said the wrong thing it could do so much damage, or i gently put across my opinioon in a non-threatening way.

i live by the rule: "if you have nothing nice or positive to say, say nothing".

i think it is a disgrace that so many members who should be looked up upon by the newer members are hell-bent on making PC such a conflicted place. im beginning to think that the titles you have are irrelevant and wrong. all of you (not just one or two) are showing yourselves in a bad light over somehting that could so easily be diffused.

leanr to grow up, treat eachother with respect - whether or not you agree with a statement - and just walk away from it if you are triggered. we all know what it is like to be triggered, and we know how upsetting it is, yet we purposely trigger others. why? i might get in trouble for this, and some could even say im being hypocritical by writing this post, but i think it is very childish and selfish.

theres a really good tool to use on this site, its called the CLOSE button in the top right of your page. if you are in anyway upset or triggered by a post, close the browser and DEAL WITH IT. it is so straight forward.

i think each of you should stop this right here, right now. once and for all. look at yourselves and ask "am i being ME, am i helping others, do i deserve my title here. do i deserve for new members to look up to me and respect me". from where i am sat the asnwer ALL of you should come up with to that question is "no".

i think i will get in trouble for this, but to be honest, i dont care. i have seen just about enough of this, and people are leaving PC because of this, which raises the other question "how many non-members come here thinking of signing up but seeing all this hatred, therefore deciding not to sign up, and thus still living a hard life full of mental illness and misery". i just wish you could see the damage you are all doing. un-necessarily too.

i am grateful, for this thread has shed some light upon me as to what some of you really are like. it seems very venomous. im trying hard to be naive, by telling myself this isnt what people really are like, that they are momentarily caught up in an arguement. but i have no reason to think that at the moment. im a forgiving, caring and kind person, yet my patience is dropping so much, and i think it is an outrage you allow yourselves to act this way when it is clearly not needed.

i ask for all of you to take a long hard look at YOURSELVES, no one else. YOU. when, and only when, YOUR life is perfect, can you begin judging and critisisng those around you.

im sorry to be so honest and brutal. i dont like having to be like this, but when i see members who are "veteran members", "grand poohbahs", and all those, wreak havoc upon such a good site, i get annoyed, and i felt i HAD to say this. up until now i have kept my mouth shut, but i cant anymore.

simon