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Originally Posted by SleeplessNY
Thank you for your reply. No menopause as of yet but the middle of the night thing has been going on for a few years now, 3 to 4 years and she has always complained of sleeping issues as does her mother to this day. At the time they did in fact think it was a stroke but that was ruled out as well. I'll have to find a way to broach the topic of having her hormone levels checked, it's a delicate topic since she is so certain that she is right about what I am saying in my sleep. Oddly enough I was just diagnosed with a thyroid issue and I am on now on medication, it's another possibility, thank you for the suggestion. I'm not sure about another brain scan as the behavior is different but perhaps a topic I can suggest if I can get to see her doctor with her. She sees her gynecologist regularly, if I recall correctly she saw her over the summer. Thank you again for your response. I have to go to work early tomorrow so hopefully tonight will be a good night.
Sleepless in NY
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When she is in her more normal state, get her to listen to the tape and to admit (in writing) that she can't hear anything said. That way when she is in her "paranoia" state, she may believe her own writing? May not work, but...
Or get others to listen to the tape with her and if they all agree that they hear nothing, maybe she'll get the idea that it's her brain that's a problem? Probably not. People in paranoid state will probably just think that the whole world is trying to scheme against them. But maybe it would work...
Well, since you tried to fight against it and it doesn't work, why not try to do the opposite and admit it and say sorry profusely? Maybe that will work? With her undefined state of mind who knows what would work and what would not. Maybe she would be willing to forgive that it happened (since she's not believing that it didn't happen).
And I think that you have to start treating her as a child in your mind. So that when she is starting to say unreasonable things, you don't lose your temper and don't answer in the same fashion as she. Just be patient, be calm and say whatever things are necessary without getting emotionally involved (I mean without feeling bad about stuff she says because you know that it's not true and that she is just sick and her mind is making up stuff). Kind of like a child says "I hate you" when you not allow them to do something...