Me too! and I haven't even use the word abuse!
this are my fears in regards to abuse:

1- Nobody will believe me since he's so nice, good looking, sweet, etc.
2- I'm not sure it isn't my fault for allowing it to go this far. I chose to allow him to treat me this way, right?
3- It is possible that it is not abuse, maybe is just the type of dynamic in our relationship. (I made it up in my mind so it isn't real abuse , is just a rough relationship)
4- I'm crazy, I shouldn't see things the way I do.

How about that?

gab