Ah ok yes I see what you mean. I agree with that yes. My best friend has a bad tendency to phrase things in a way that make me feel guilt if I say no. Sometimes we go a couple of months without seeing each other (because I'm just so restricted in my ability to leave the house) and when we speak she'll say things like "We should get together, if you want to see me that is"... To me that is very much so a guilt trip, because it implies that if I say no then I don't actually want to see her, which is not the case. I just don't want to have to leave the house or interrupt the routine I'm in the middle of.

Because I can drive, and she can't, it's always me who has to go to see her too. I don't particularly like leaving the house at the best of times these days, and I actually find driving to be a little draining of late so I avoid it when possible. If she could drive and was willing to come to my house, I'd see her more than I do just now probably but somehow I still get made to feel like the bad one.