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Originally Posted by KathyM
I agree the amount of child support (or lack thereof) is irrelevant, but that's not her complaint. It's the last part of her sentence - where he says he does not want to introduce her to the child because he does not want to upset the child's mother. WTH? If they are a "serious" couple, why would it upset his ex - and why are the feelings of the ex more important to him than the feelings of Counselor?
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sorry I had to add some more.. she said
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He says he doesnt want to ask her about bringing the child around me because he doesnt wanna rock the boat with her. He tells me it will make his life very complicated right now.
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We don't know all the details and it doesn't exactly say what she means. Rocking the boat coupled with the idea that she doesn't ask for child support, could be related. Rocking the boat could mean that if she's upset at him she could do something mean and nasty and push child support just for spite. I've been here and I know how it can be with divorces.
One other thought about this. If the child is 18 mos old, a mother is pretty attached to her child and is still just learning to be a mom (if its her first especially). Introducing the baby to another female could easily be seen as a threat to her motherhood and no one's mentioned that maybe this is actually a smart thing to do in this case. I hope you all get my meaning. It is his child but it's not as simple at that age. People are very protective of their infants and toddlers and I can't judge them for this. Just a thought.