I am with my bf of 5 yrs and he says he suffers from depression and has all his life. The first yr in our relationship was amazing and so fun. After this, he started to become lazy and complacent about life and also our relationship. He would spend all day in bed. He would focus on motorcycles every hr of the day rather than get a job, work towards our future or spend time with me.
Over the years he started to become increasingly aggressive and angry towards the rest of the world and me. He would snap at me about everything, everyone was out to get him and he would be dismissive of me and our relationship.

Throughout all of this, i would pay for everything as he still had no job and when he had money he would spend it all on motorcycles. He would not come home till 2am every night as he would be distracting himself with motorcycles.

Over time he became increasingly lazy regarding our relationship; would make no effort and i honestly cannot remember the last time he did something thoughtful. When I would bring this up, he would get angry and say he has so much stress in his life trying to get a job and money and that he feels like killing himself every day that i should be more understanding. It would always end up with me trying to make him feel better. Especially in this last year he would tell me to shut the ***** up up in front of people when i spoke as he hated any attention not on him. He is very charming, loud and happy to everyone else besides his family and myself.

I feel that i cant do anything right, i pay for everything, everything is always my fault and he makes no effort regarding our relationship. Is he just severely depressed, emotionally abusive or should i just cut my losses and move on as nothing i have tried over the last 4 years, seems to work or even make any improvements?????