Hey mate. I've been reading the posts and i sympathize. Boy do i sympathize. I've been casually browsing brothels around the world thinking that maybe i'll tie a visit in with a holiday. Thailand is no longer as cheap ( and it is illegal) as it used to be but i think probably still cheaper than USA or Europe. In Germany and Holland it is legal. I was looking at a club in Germany called ARTEMIS. It has saunas, pools, massage,cinema,free food and drink and of course sex. It costs 80 euros entrance and then sex ( whatever you want and agree on) is 60 euros for half an hour. For a virgin i would say that you would want at least an hour with a girl ( the first time has got to be nice , not rushed and feel good). so that would be 200 euros, which is er prob £180 or $270. Which is a lot of money but you can stay there all day, get a free breakfast and buffet dinner in the evening and use all the facilities so hmm maybe not so bad. I came (sic) across a place in Amsterdam where it is free. The downside is that they use it as a kind of reality show and put it online. Some people could live with that some couldn't but if you could find the air fare to Amsterdam then maybe thats a possibility and have a holiday at the same time. Anyway i know it sucks big time and really society should recognize that sex is a basic biological need for most people and make it easier for people who don't get laid ( too shy, ugly, disabled whatever) to get their share too , so to speak. It's almost a cruel and unusual punishment metered out to people who deserve better. Yet another way society is way outta whack with the needs of the people. Best of luck mate. I think the idea of just being honest ( 30 yo virgin looking for caring and sensitive older woman to be intimate with and make him a man) and seeing if a woman is willing to have sex with you isn't a bad idea. America is a big country and if you spread yourself wide enough ( not literally) i'm sure somebody would respond. ok here are a few links.
Berlin Bordello Experience | Capital Punter Blog
Angus Magee Blog
FKK Club Artemis Berlin
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=23887
Ps Oops that free one is in Prague not Amsterdam