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Originally Posted by stopdog
It is interesting to think about why you would ask people here what they thought about it if it did not bother you.
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I asked because 1) I thought it would be an interesting discussion if my T even thought it was maybe on the edge of boundaries to do, 2) I did enjoy the moment and wanted to share it and 3) all of my posts are so negative/dramatic I thought it would be nice to share a lighthearted story for a change.
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Originally Posted by PeeJay
Whether or not this interaction is healthy totally depends on the context of the client and the recipient of the action.
This particular client, the OP, analyzes things and reads into things a lot. If the client is constantly hunting for evidence of her own specialness to the T, and wanting proof that T loves her as a daughter, than the T should not act in ways that reinforce that perception.
I wonder if this T is feeling a bit on edge trying to maintain the connection and help the client, while at the same time worrying about each action being fraught with over-identification and too much meaning.
Thanks for sharing the interaction, it is a sweet one but I just worry you'll take it out of context.
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Well, it's kinda hard to take this out of context. She just tied my shoes. Yes, I did interpret it as a mothering thing. She does that in little ways. She was helping me prepare for an evaluation at my school to be allowed to come back next semester. It did feel like my mom helping clean me up for an event or something. She knows that I literally do see her as a mom and that's probably why she hesitated to question the boundaries with it.