Totally agree with this.

Also there is a big stereotype that all bpd individuals will explode at just about anything. Most therapists don't want to be in the middle of a possible rage when they disclose the diagnosis. Denial is a common response to a new diagnosis and they don't know who is going to be particularly angry about it.

I still think he should have told you. But I personally think I would have been better off not knowing. I hate being told that my personality is a ****ing illness.