I'm glad you can rest in the shoe tying moment. I agree with Bill here: there's something to be said for facilitating a client to experience the feeling of being cared for. When our self, body, and spirit has been systematically degraded, abused, and humiliated, we don't know what the experience of unconditional caring looks or feels like. I think we need to recognize and experience it in our bones in order to trust in it, then internalize it, and finally take it with us out into the world. I think this T overall is getting it pretty spot on.