So when I've been in other relationships, I have found myself wanting sex just for security. I basically would use sex as a way to assure myself that our relationship was okay. We'd fight, I'd want to have sex; he'd threaten to leave, I'd want sex; he'd become physically violent and I'd want sex. I guess it's like so long as I was good enough to make love to, then he wouldn't leave.

I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful man. He's kind, loving, smart- just a remarkable person, I'm very lucky. We have been having a rough patch as of late and I find myself hungry for sex for the same unhealthy reasons as before. I've resisted the urge, forcing myself to keep intimacy as a way to bring us closer together rather than use it as a security blanket. My question is, is this normal? And how to I stop craving sex as a way to feel okay in our relationship? Thanks for reading and I appreciate the feedback!