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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I'm glad you can rest in the shoe tying moment. I agree with Bill here: there's something to be said for facilitating a client to experience the feeling of being cared for. When our self, body, and spirit has been systematically degraded, abused, and humiliated, we don't know what the experience of unconditional caring looks or feels like. I think we need to recognize and experience it in our bones in order to trust in it, then internalize it, and finally take it with us out into the world. I think this T overall is getting it pretty spot on.
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Yes, I agree. We went through a phase when I couldn't accept the idea that someone would care for me regardless of my behavior. I'd act out (just in small ways like using an excessive amount of foul language in group or back talking group leader constantly. Every time, she still accepted me and told me that regardless of my behavior, I still deserve to be cared for and T still likes me anyway.
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Originally Posted by anilam
And this I think is the problem. She shouldn't have done it- were you tying your own shoes even an option there? I'd feel out of control, like a small child not even able to tie her own shoes let alone go through an evaluation.
I do think this is reenacting a pattern but not in a healing way.  |
Yes, I'm totally capable of tying my own shoes haha