Thanks for your measured response. I will try to take that in as I go along. I do realize that people have a lot they are going through and reasons for what they say that I have no idea about. It's good to have that in the forefront of my mind.

Here is something posted about judgement and support in the Psychotherapy forum that I read as people being entitled to their own opinions:

"Opinions are neither right nor wrong -- they are simply one person's perspective on a situation. If someone disagrees with your opinion, that doesn't make them wrong, an idiot, or without insight. It makes them different than you, that's all."