Without getting TOO graphic here... I NEVER just have sex, pull out, roll over and go to sleep - ever, ever, ever. After we've both "gotten there" we almost always quietly lay together with me still inside her and cuddle. We often sleep for an hour or two like that before we wake up enough to "detatch" and go back to sleep. It's a very intimate and loving way to experience each other.

As far as your boyfriend entering you without seeking your consent and willing participation... It's up to each individual to decide whether or not that's ok. I think the important thing is, were YOU ok with it or were you not? Having sexual relations with another person is such an incredibly personal thing I don't think there is such a thing as "normal". What's "normal" is what YOU consider to be normal. So, what your boyfriend did is only NOT ok if YOU think it was not ok. There are no "THIS is ok and THAT is not ok" rules other than the ones you have in your own head. YOU are the one that must decide for yourself what you like and what you don't like, what's ok and what's not ok. No one else can tell you that.

Experiment with sex to determine what you're ok with and what you're not... That is, only IF you're comfortable and ok with experimenting. If you aren't, DON'T. It's perfectly acceptable to not want to experiment if that's the way you feel! Either way, YOU are in charge of your own body and no one else can tell you that what you want (or, more importantly, don't want) is "normal" or "not normal".

I wish you happiness and meaningful intimacy.

Dan