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Originally Posted by archipelago
I agree with that observation but would add that sometimes it's not the person who is unfamiliar with the "advice," but the person giving it. Sometimes people can be way off base and say something that can be seen as destructive or harmful. Not that they intend this, but there are unconscious things that happen. And for me it seems that there are times when it is clearly mostly a projection. When that happens, I actually don't think the person has a valid opinion. They are being reactive not responsive. there is a huge difference between the two.
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So there are two options there-
if one feels this observation is 100% accurate for whatever reason, perhaps privately and respectfully address the person who seems to be projecting.
The other option is to contact the moderator.
I think, as has been brought up [I think?] it is difficult to ascertain another's motives. Simply because an individual views a specific situation in a certain view it does not mean they are projecting; even if that is the case it doesn't make their POV invalid- because given their view of the world and the situation, and therefor the information they have at hand, that is the opinion they have developed.
Everyone's opinion of a situation is colored by, and developed because of, their experience. Simply because a person interprets a specific situation inaccurately [making assumptions based on the information provided to them that may be untrue] it doesn't make their opinion invalid. It may mean their specific experience does not apply to a given situation, but their opinion can still be valid and useful.
ETA: I would suggest that some thought be put into the notion of marking individuals' comments, opinions, thoughts as "invalid". It is a very strong label. Perhaps one that is actually harmful in itself.