Ok so my girlfriend my love my best friend has cheated on me.... She claims things were bad between us and at a moment of alcoholic weakness she did the last thing i thought she would ever do. Now i heard it from her mouth, when i taunting her with the question... "is there anything you need to tell me" people say i should give credit for that. WHATEVER... It has been about 2 months since I received this heart breaking news and have since decided to offer her a second chance. The reason for the second chance is... if you knew her, this kind of behavior is not her personality, also, she expresses to me that she wishes she could take it back, she feels dirty and disgusting when she thinks about it, and tells me i didnt desrve this and i deserve someone better... I believer that she is sorry, and when she says it was the first and last time, I made my decision to try again and truly want to. Since I have found out she keeps nothing from me and has made some positive steps to show me she is serious about not losing me, and she is comfortable knowing my trust is shattered and wants to rebuild it no matter how long it takes. My problem is, as i no longer feel the hostility part of the anger.... I cant help but to replay hearing what i heard come out of her mouth... and when i replay it, it makes my stomach sink and brings my anger right back. Now she has answered all the questions I have for her, but as anyone knows you never feel like you got the truth fully, but i know the hard facts, do i really want to know more, this was not a prolonged thing... all this happened in the matter of a couple weeks when reconnecting with her high school FEMALE friend who basically introduced her and him... However, my decision is made. What I need to know is, Will I ever be able to get past this and let it be a distant memory. Can we grow to be best friends again, we have been intimate since and honestly it is back to amazing, But I still cant get it out of my head, even though the sting is not so bad anymore, the disgust and resentment still lingers and takes a toll on my attitude when it arises.... I dont want to throw away what we had or what we can have If i can get over this, she is a great girl, the best i have ever been with....... Please, anyone with this kind of experience...any good advice is appreciated...!!!
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