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Dec 11, 2013, 03:57 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Quote:
Originally Posted by growlithing
Well she said "I really want to tie your shoes". I find that much less patronizing than "tie your shoes" or even "I want you to tie your shoes"
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I hear my mother say "I want to tie your shoes" and I hear patronizing.
I hear my friend say "I want to tie your shoes" and I hear support and care.
I hear another friend say "I want to tie your shoes" and I hear a request to have her needs met with an assumption that I'll speak up if it's not okay with me and with fondness for me.
I hear my T say that and I hear care.
Makes sense to me that you didn't find it patronizing. When I read what you wrote I had a smile on my face and a nice feeling.
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