What is OP simply wants it? What is wrong with having something one wants - why does it have to rise to the level of need? I mean, you can say that one needs alcohol to prevent dementia and heart disease, plus, wine is full of anti-oxidants, but even if that weren't the case, i.e. if alcohol were neutral health-wise, as long as OP does not see untoward interactions with her medications, it is perfectly OK to drink wine simply because it tastes nice.

I mean - I do not NEED milk in my tea, but I like it better that way, both because of taste and because I do not need to wait for tea to cool off, so I drink tea with milk. You see nothing wrong with this, right? Why it is different if we are talking not milk but wine? Both milk and wine are age old drinks, after all... and I like both milk and wine, and that ALONE is sufficient for me to enjoy both milk and wine, forget about calcium and anti-oxidants.