Seemingly everything that's meaningful to me is also meaningful to them although they're outspoken about it. If you make a list of my beliefs, goals and so forth, then place their list alongside, the duplication is uncanny. Other relatives, other people all have their own goals. When we were younger, they spoke of their own goals, where they wanted to move to, their own image which I didn't ascribe to and candidly had my share of laughs to myself regarding. We used to be quite different. Having a fellow traveler through life isn't bad in itself, but it becomes bad when you get it to relationship dynamics. Because of how we relate, I prefer to keep them at arms length. They're leading me astray from my path by performing a blocking action, making the path their own. It's like two dogs vying for a doggy bone when there's a million other doggy bones that dog #2 could be chasing after. I don't like to always have to be the dog that moves on to another bone. Why not just share the bone? Well, maybe it's just me, but they act like the bone is originally theirs and I'm the usurper, that I'm a follower doing it their way, contrary to the Sinatra song.