I think people who are emotionally intelligent scare a lot of people in our society who are not in touch w/their feelings and emotions. Most people go around and don't have a clue what emotions they are experiencing or feeling hence they cant say simple things like - I feel sad or I feel angry. The fact that you are emotionally intelligent does not mean you are not able to connect socially - the key is finding other emotionally intelligent people to connect with. That's what has worked for me. People who cant talk about their feelings or emotions are going to dismiss us because it makes them uncomfortable. And oh god - the last thing someone wants to feel is a little discomfort or a little anxiety - much easier to dismiss the person and get back to their comfortable little world. My wife has done a lot of work on her emotions and feelings so we connect well. Don't give up on yourself and don't label yourself as rejected. Its the other people that have the issue not you ! they cant handle the thought of talking about their feelings and getting emotional so they shut it off as soon as it comes up. You sound pretty healthy to me. Give yourself a break and look for others who have that similar emotional intelligence and i'll bet you start making some connections.