I cannot believe a therapist said that to you! If you don't want to go on meds you should not be refused treatment. It sounds like you are managing reasonably well. Maybe you could try to work really hard at therapy like CBT or DBT and see if you can work it on on your own. There is a thread called Unmedicated Success or something like that, that is very recent that might help you as well.

Personally, I was getting into a lot of trouble, DBT alone was not fast enough for me. I needed a solution quick before things really started going down hill. I feel that I really need to be in a different place in life to be able to make the commitment to put in the effort it takes to go sans meds. Ultimately in my life I do not want to be on medication.

I currently use the mood stabilizer Lomotrigine and the anti-depressant Wellbutrin with a lot of success, if that is useful information to you, I don't know.

I hope you can find some relief soon.