You don't ever "get over" someone. You just learn to live with the pain of the loss... and it takes a long, long time to even do that. 40 years ago I lost the woman that I loved and married. The pain is still there. It will always be there. It lessens over time, but it never goes away. You just learn to move on with your life while you mourn. I have never stopped mourning. Even though I thought my life was over when I lost my wife, much to my surprise, I found out that it wasn't. I started a new life with another wonderful woman and have been very, very happy with her. But, there will always be a special place in my heart for my first wife.

I KNOW you can get through this. And I KNOW that it's one of the most painful things you will ever endure. One day at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. The agony you feel every morning when you first wake up will lessen over time... and your life WILL go on. And you WILL learn to be happy again... even if it doesn't feel like that's possible right now.

My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry for your pain.

Dan