Thanks blur......I don't think his dad is guessing.....my partner does talk to his dad and has been talking to him.

As for the cheating.....I really don't think that he was with work colleague, I think I was putting two and two together and making 15!!! especially with the mobile thing and internet aswell. He flatly denied it all and always has. He could have taken the easy option and said he had been cheating as I had made it clear that I was prepared to work things through in our relationship with him.

Clearly, he would not admit to doing something that he wasn't doing, just to take the easy option.

I really don't think his dad would have come over and talked to me if he hadn't discussed things with his son.

As for the knocking me over, he did not push me, I had his mobile and he was trying to get it out of my hands.......he has never been violent with me or even shouted or raised his voice. This was completely out of character for him and if he is being chased by bailiffs and mortgage company etc then it is understandable that he would not want me to have it. Hence why he couldn't leave it with me Monday.

I am not making excuses for him or his behaviour, we have a long way to go....if at all.....there is a lot to talk about and sort out.....that's if he even has any contact with me at all in the first place.

At the end of the day, we are having a new baby daughter together and the least we can do is sort things and have a relationship where we can bring her up together as her parents be that together or co-parenting.

Lack of communication has been our problem and is something we need to sort out and work on for the future.

I have been in a violent and abusive relationship before with a very controlling man and I know the difference. I didn't jump into another relationship. It took 6years of healing and counselling and enjoying being single, and building a new life for myself and my children.

I enjoyed my single life and I enjoy my independence. I would never consider marriage again as I am happy with my life and having a partner. He has always been fantastic with my children and supports them better than their father does. We have been together for two years and we didn't rush into a relationship together or trying for a baby.

My daughter was shouting at him to "go away" and I feel that is why he went away as he did not know what to do. He text me to apologise that night and called me and then came down the next day, although I didn't see him as I went to hospital.

Like I say he has never been violent or aggressive before, it is not his nature. I do know violent and aggressive and abusive and if I had believed that night that he was I would have called the police myself as I did do with my ex husband and would not have hesitated!

Thanks for your support and advice and caution, it is safely stored on board....x