My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years, my mother lives with us since she spends half of her time here and the other half out of the country.
Recently, I found a pair of panties (that aren't mine) stuffed behind the bed. I asked him about it, and he confessed he has a panty fetish.. and went in my mother's bedroom and took her lace panties. My first thought was he wants to do my mom! But he explained to me that he doesn't associate the panties with the owner, it's just the underwear he wants.. and then I got hurt because why didn't he use my panties instead, and he explained that they didn't fit. So I've learned that his panty fetish is wearing them when he self pleases himself.. I've signed onto this site for help, in understanding his fetish and hearing ya'll opinion about the fact that he went seeking through my mother's panty draw (isn't that crazy? or is it just me). I can't even look at him because I know he masterbated to my mother's underwear, and he went seeking for them! I go through these stages of emotions, hurt, sad, angry, disgust, insecure, and back to sad… don't forget confused to the mix the whole time. I feel the emotions of a person who's been cheated on, and thinking maybe this is a bad dream.
I would really like some help, or guidance to where I can get help for our relationship. I'm scared his fetish is boarder line obsession if he went seeking panties to fit him. And this fetish doesn't turn me on… and from the forums and other things I've read, it doesn't help the relationship if someone isn't down to try it.
Please tell me what you think or know about panty fetishes.