By saying, I'll just do it myself, is to lay a guilt trip. Instead of being direct, it is a passive-aggressive way, to get what she wants, you to do the tree. Well, her home, why wouldn't she be the first to start? Why not, ask for help? Your initial post, implies, she isn't able to do it all, herself. Which is the underlying tone, in that do it herself statement.

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