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Originally Posted by kaliope
I always thought it was awful because I try to be an optimist, but it worked for me to get out of a unhealthy relationship. I compiled a list of all the negative things my partner did and I referred to that list every time I found myself getting weak and ready to cave. I said to myself, how could he love me when he did x, y and z. it worked and I was able to stick with my convictions. good luck and take care.
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I know in my heart that things won't change, and I guess I feel guilty about giving false hope....but I can't just walk away without trying to help. A list is a helpful idea thanks, as I struggle to hold on to my anger etc and find myself once again trying to 'fix' things. It's not easy for me to leave physically either...we share a house, his son lives with us,I have no where to go and no money. If I don't do this in the right way things could get bad very very fast...