Purely for the scheduling thing alone, I would not go back to this therapist. Insisting on a time that's inconvenient to you just to teach you a lesson? So inappropriate. Therapy should be a relationship built on respect, not a power struggle.

I'm bothered by the fact that the T seems to think they know all your problems based on one session. I'm bothered that she left you so upset with no concrete skills to deal with the feelings that were stirred up.

Yes, what she said is true - you do have to make an effort in life to get somewhere, but a therapist's job is to meet you where you're at and help you develop the skills to move forward. Not to criticize and blame. Sometimes, my T will tell me rather harsh truths, that I'd rather not hear, but we always talk through them, she makes sure I'm okay with what's been said, and she's very good about knowing when to push and when to support me.