I've had really bad first experiences with some therapists. Generally if session one is that bad then they will all be bad. It's ok to be challenging to a client, but that should come after some measure of trust is built up. Whether out not she thinks you need to put more effort into things, she should start with accommodating where you're at. Almost tenant one is that you meet clients where they're at and work towards change...
I'm sorry it was such a horrid experience. I hope you can find someone that's a good fit for you.