My son's having dinner with this woman he met in his peer support class. He's so stressed. He called right before she was to show up to say that 'some people might think it's odd' to drive so far to have dinner with someone. Personally I see nothing wrong with driving an hour to see a friend, particularly as he was to be in class in the same city. The class was cancelled at the last minute, but the dinner date had already been made.

I didn't really know what to say to reassure him. First, who cares what 'some people might think'? He lives his whole life trying to avoid imagined criticisms from imaginary people. Second, people do drive a distance to see friends. Especially when the friend is in need of support - as this one is.

I wish he wouldn't torture himself. No matter how great something is (he's been wanting more friends for a long time), he finds a way to twist it around so it's negative. I wish he could just enjoy the good stuff when it comes into his life. Life dishes up enough misery without us having to invent more.