Hey there. Hope you're doing okay. I agree with you. Being poly is not looked upon favourably by many. I know many people in the poly community who have to keep that part of themselves closeted because what would happen - at work, at school, socially, in their families, etc - if it got out. I think it's sad that people can't just love who they want, how they want (as long as it's not hurting anyone of course). I hope you realize (and it sounds like you do) that the messages they are projecting onto you are harmful and unhealthy and have absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Have you considered finding a poly network near where you live? For example, you could try meetup.com. If there's a meetup group for poly people near where you live, chances are you'll find it there. It might help you connect with likeminded individuals and be able to get some support around what you're going through.