You know, I've been thinking more about this as well. let me explain why...

Not only do I think my mother, brother, or anyone really would respond to this well for one, but I think about something else. How would praising and complementing another help ME in that relationship...help me to turn my focus as well into recognizing the positive, put some focus there, appreciate what can be.

Bottom line, it could help me more than them in that again, I'm not changing them so much as I'm changing me...what I really only have control over anyhow. Yep, this is an eye-opener for me. I want to see the few precious things I can see in my birth family. What a gift to myself.

KD